pregnancy & parenting sisterhood

The Move Forward

by Amber — October 17, 2012

reclining nude move forward

They are beautiful and vulnerable
They hold a visible power
but struggle to stay strong
under society’s twenty-something worship

We see silver spiders, flabby skin
extra weight, scars and cringe
We forget that a child changes everything
including the vessel

We forget that these alterations
are beautiful and necessary to
bring open joy to a new routine

We need to tune out a society
that would have us age backwards
instead of moving forward

look down
look close
feel it
touch it
Thank it

***I wanted to acknowledge my inspirations for this piece. I’ve wanted to comment on this documentary since I saw it close to a year ago: BirthMarkings (http://mama.imow.org/yourvoices/birthmarkings), but wasn’t quite sure how. Klarissa’s “Mom Bum” post brought it back to my forethought and added new light. I’m happy with what I’ve come up with, but know I haven’t done justice to the topic. Have a look at BirthMarkings and let me know what you think.

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  • Klarissa

    I think your message is very clear and beautifully written. I look at societies who embrace the woman’s form in its truth and am grateful that there are women fighting against our societies idea of beauty. It’s just too bad that we do indeed have to fight it. We should always be able to feel beautiful without anyone else dictating what beauty is.

    • Amber

      I guess that’s part of the problem…. the fact that we feel we need to fight what other people think. When feeling beautiful, despite others ideals, should be enough. That’s the harder battle.

  • This is so nice Amber, Since puberty I have been terribly aware of how the female body changes and how we have to grow to accept ourselves. I grew these huge boobs nearly overnight when I was 12 years old and they left terrible angry red stretch marks all over. I can still see those scars. What also changed overnight was how differently people reacted to me and how my identity changed because of that. Beauty is lots of things, physical beauty is just one tiny facet of the whole.

    • Amber

      And yet, we focus on the physical beauty in bigger ways than it deserves.

  • Elisabeth

    Hi Amber, This is a lovely piece of writing. I remember hearing or reading, the lines on our bodies are a road map of our lives. Some of us do a lot of living. Elisabeth

    • Amber

      This made me smile! Hope you’re well!

  • Bridget

    I just saw this (many years later) and it reminded me of your poem, Amber. I’ll just leave this link here… http://hellogiggles.com/belly-24-hours-after-birth/